baby's first year

As new parents we discovered that the wide world of baby products is vast and from the beginning we were bombarded with baby
You could have heard a pin drop before the torrent of remarks flew towards me. From being told that sleeping too much will stunt her development and that the sleeping habits wouldn't last to being terrified with potentially incorrect SIDS facts and how cruel the 'cry it out' method is - admitting that AB was sleeping well was a bad move.
That moment our lovely midwife Maria placed him on my chest was something so magical and surreal. After more than nine months of growing inside of me, we finally encountered our tiny creation. The mental and physical exhaustion, shock, tears and fear subsided and a gentle calmness suddenly filled the room. We had become a three and had our very own sheet of blank paper to fill in.
Sleep deprivation kills motivation, desire, and mood and is often the biggest challenge to enjoying your child as opposed to getting through the day (and night). The lens of sleeplessness colours our world very differently because sleep is the first step to coping.
One of the first posts on my blog was 'Stuff Daddy Does to Annoy Mummy': a list of the annoying habits your partner suddenly picks up, or rather always had, but you no longer have patience for after you welcome your first child.
They can both be super helpful when you need a quick fix of information to deal with a situation in the here and now, but using these to radically transform the way your family is interacting...
The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. You can't change the past (well unless you have a time machine and if you do then I'd love you to give me a call there's a few things I'd like to erase).
In fact, give yourself a break, because not only are you trying to figure out what you want, you're also trying to figure out what another human being wants, when they don't even know themselves...
So, what should you say? Before you get mournful and buy an 'in loving memory' card for their fanny just have a word with yourself. Tell them they look great, they're doing really well and make them a brew, just the same as before they were a new mum really.
Today was a momentous day for me as a dad, because Gemma popped into the office for the first time since Sonny was born - leaving us to fend for ourselves. For an entire day! Here's how it went...