We shouldn't be blaming Mumsnet for a rise in fear of childbirth. Cuts to services, lack of research and a push on natural birth all factor in
After the natural delivery of my daughter, I spent weeks feeling like I’d been hit by a bus. For my second baby, I wasn't willing to take the risk
'Natural' isn't all white floaty dresses and harmony, it's much more bumpy and stained
Last week my partner gave birth to our daughter in our living room - the culmination of a pregnancy that was extraordinary only because we received the highest quality of personalised care - all from the NHS.
Labouring for over two days ended in the call for a category one (highest level) emergency caesarean. Nothing in my mental preparation had imagined my birthing room being suddenly rushed by medical staff with such a sense of urgency and panic, being sped down a corridor on a trolley to be prepped for surgery and have your baby pulled out within 15 minutes of the call being made.
Fear can hold us back in all aspects of our lives and childbirth is no different. If you expect a difficult birth, you're much more likely to get one. If you are positive and have the right tools to help you cope, you're much more likely to have a good experience. In a nutshell, that's what hypnobirthing is all about.
Being in an environment that feels familiar is a huge plus point when it comes to feeling safe. In hypnobirthing we explain how these feelings release the positive hormones and emotions that make it easier for us to give birth, often more comfortably, quickly and enjoyably.
It's important that we recognise that some men will not benefit from being at the birth of their child. For some people this would seem like a step backwards, the exclusion of anyone based on their sex, from anything, will always be seen as such, but we must remember that a father's mental health is important too.
There is no failure to be found in any female brave enough to go through the process of childbirth, no matter what that process may be. There is no such thing as "giving in" or taking the "easy option" when it comes to childbirth.
Reading the energy of an unborn baby is so magical, pure and present. There are rarely any energetic blockages in an unborn baby, which makes it really easy to tap into their needs from and questions for the parents. What's been striking is that there is a clear recurring pattern of needs that nearly every unborn child has for and from their parent-to-be.