My nose job means I now fall into a category of what society has decided is pretty. But I wish I had been strong enough to embrace what made me stand out.
What if we spent our energy working to take the power away from 'ugly'?
It is true that our minds can stay younger in self-image than our bodies stay in physical form.
'Women use dating apps to feel better about themselves more than men do.'
Your self-esteem is a delicate creature. It can be damaged by many things - a break up of a relationship, a change in life or work circumstances - any dent in your sense of identity can leave you feeling less yourself and cause you to suffer a loss of self confidence.
My son, like always, tumbled out of school amidst a blizzard of books and sheets of paper. Face smeared with dinner and a toothy grin, his cast off jumper trailed behind him. In his even filthier hand was clutched a crumpled little blue drawing of my partner and me. He doesn't draw often. It was presented with a shy pride in the way that turns my heart to Play-Doh.
Knowing that you have inspired others, should be the confidence booster as opposed to hearing sweet nothings. Knowing that the image you create or share should hold more truth and honesty than falsities and a sense of unattainability. Others should feel like they can be and do, what you are and what you do, with a sense of belief, high self-esteem and self-assurance.
The problem is not that we appreciate beauty but that the definition of beauty is so narrow, too narrow to include afro textured hair, so while society is waking up to the damaging effects of its narrow definition of beauty, advocating for body acceptance, even skin colour acceptance, hair discrimination still goes largely unopposed.
The phrase 'alternative facts' is preoccupying most of us at the moment. Provision of 'alternative facts' about the numbers
This constant and regular presence on social networking sites (an estimated 4-hours a day) has put young girls in a virtual panorama; the pressures to achieve the perfect makeup, body, weight are magnified in an arena where selfies, revenge porn and body shaming are the norm.