Guided by the belief that love equalled loss, I deliberately sought out men with whom there was no chance of real intimacy - commitment-phobes, men with partners or men who were gay. Either that, or I would find fault with every good guy I got close to.
If you're a gay guy in the 21st century, you'll have heard it all before; 'masc4masc', 'straight acting only', 'no fems'. Hook-up apps are littered with self-professed masculine men who don't want anything sexually from more feminine gay guys.
hey can occasionally blend from one category into another, but most break-uppers or break-uppees will identify with one of these. I present: The Clean Break; The Beat a Slow Retreat; The No Fault Clause; The Ghoster.
'I'm fine!' - my automated response when someone asks me how I am and even that is a massive overstatement. Rewind two months and I would have said 'Amazing!' or 'Really Good!' with enough gusto to ensure that whoever was asking knew that I meant it, because it was true.
Although I am romantic, I am also very practical, so I need to find a way to find my prince. I tried hooking up with guys in pubs, and it worked well until I had to use the wheelchair to get around. Since then, I have become invisible.
It's easy to take each other for granted, especially when you're in a long term relationship - but the fact is, the grass isn't always greener! When you've found the one, you need to value them - especially on Valentine's Day!
My ex-boyfriend used to describe himself as a 'hopeless romantic'. Not because he couldn't help but be romantic, unfortunately, but because he considered himself completely hopeless at doing anything romantic. The mere thought of Valentine's Day would bring him out in a cold sweat.
You get to the office and there's not so much as an aphid on your desk, let alone a bunch of roses from a smitten co-worker. By the time you've struggled home on the bus, the only intimate encounter you've had has been with a violin case, when the kid carrying it grudgingly gets up to offer you their seat as the bags you are carrying under your eyes look so heavy.
It's almost Valentine's Day, which means there's plenty of love in the air and many of us will already be thinking of what to wear. Whether you're heading out on a first date in the evening or spending a chilled out day with your loved one, it's a welcome opportunity to dress to impress.
Most people (46 per cent) expect their cut flowers to last less than a week, which is no surprise considering common mistakes include not changing the water in the vase, dumping the flowers in a vase without cutting the stems, and not using the flower food provided - all easy fixes to ensure your flowers stay looking fresh for longer.
I hope everyone indulges in something beautiful for someone beautiful. I hope each time we go for gold... we see if it really does glisten not just for us but for all those who mine it, make and those who wear it.
I fought for ages about seeking professional help. My defense was "I'm fine!". On reflection, the early days of the split were when I needed help the most, over 4 years on I believe that this lack of professional help in the early stages has impacted on how I deal with my emotions now. Go get help and don't be embarrassed about it!
As soon as the last Xmas decoration is put away, we are bombarded with red roses and hearts. Everyone jumps on the bandwagon - I even saw a heart shaped pile of doughballs outside Pizza Express - to max on the seasonal love fest.
Now, as a nutritional therapist, I always ask people about their sex drive, because it's a big indicator of underlying health. Whilst my clients don't really see it as an issue, actually it gives me a clue into how their hormones are functioning and where we need to support the body.
The answer to all of the above is yes, yes and yes my disability does not stop me from wanting to find love, have a sex life or be seen as desirable. So why do people feel they need to ask these questions to people with disabilities?
Planning your wedding can be really overwhelming. There are so many things to organise and plan, so I am giving you the lowdown on the A-Z of wedding planning to keep you calm. Relax, I have you covered!