Having a life threatening illness feels like being on the next level. You're not on earth because you're closer to death, but you're not quite in heaven either because you're still alive. You're on this strange limbo level. Mikey feels the same. Being told from the age of four that you could die at any moment and you might not make it past childhood is a lot to deal with.
Some time ago, my ideal date consisted of bar hoping in chic, cosy places about town. I loved this superficial setting because it was the perfect place to be on my best behaviour. I could carefully craft my ideal version of my life story. Not a mascara leak anywhere.
We all go through it, it's like a right of passage to womanhood and it's perfectly normal as long as you learn from it. I spent a few years in my 20's dating the wrong kind of man. It wasn't pretty or flattering but it made me who I am today.
In many virtual dating spaces, whiteness is dominant and people of colour merely inhabit these spaces as 'unwanted guests' or as 'fetish objects'. This is not an attempt to vilify any individual white males. Instead, it aims to dig deeper: into the culture of pervasive whiteness that exists not only in virtual spaces but also in so many real-life spaces.
If you have a single mummy friend who has recently gone through a split from her husband or partner, here are some ways that you could be a good friend to her...
Having been both a woman that has been cheated on and ' the other woman', as well as witnessing several of my friends in similar situations, it has always frustrated me that regardless of the situation, a woman is always blamed for leading a man astray.
When it comes to sex, I'm very vanilla - I'm happiest in missionary. The closest I've come to apparatus, is when a boyfriend put ice-cubes in his mouth, for some x-rated Frozen fun. So when I arrive at London Fetish Weekend, I'm as out of place as Katie Hopkins at a body positivity workshop.
It would be great if everyone who was having sex was having fun sex and we hope that we can work towards a world where that is the case, but that isn't the world we live in now. So if you're not having fun sex, you're not alone and there are things that will help.
Firstly let me say, I have been the victim in an abusive relationship. The way masculinity is framed within society makes it incredibly difficult to 'come out' as it were and talk about this. The discussion around this story and the amount of victim blaming that has gone on is abhorrent.
Sex is a common area I hear women talk about not getting what they want - whether it be the partner they desire, or the connection, or the orgasm, many women are left deeply unsatisfied during and after sex.
'I'm going CRAZY! Whats WRONG with me!'. If I had a pound for every woman I had heard say something like that after discovering their partners secret sexual behaviours I would never need to work another day!
Don't under estimate how hard it is to be amicable with your break-up. It may appear easy to separate and remain friends but it rarely is as straight forward and easy as it seems. It takes a lot from both parents to be able to put their differences aside and stay friends.
The midlife crisis is a well-known phenomenon; you may even know somebody that's fallen prey to it and has suddenly developed a large collection of Hawaiian shirts, leather trousers or rock'n'roll compilation CD's. What's not so widely publicised though, is its preliminary attack; a smaller, but equally life changing milestone on the landscape of adulthood, the quarter life crisis.
It seems when the youngest started school people became awfully interested in her life. People that couldn't have cared less how she passed her time at home with small people in tow suddenly want to know. But do they really? Do they really want to know why she's still at home? What she does all day?
We are more likely to teach our children about sex - especially the morality of it - that we often forget the much more important lesson in Adult Love, namely teaching them how to be in a loving adult relationship.
Long-term relationships will test us in ways we would never believe, they are the ultimate growing experience. We can choose to grow, or we can choose to shrink and not live to our true heart's potential.