It was hard, very hard, but it's true that time heals. When we go through something like that, we think it's the end of the world. As time goes by and we reflect on our experience, we start to put things into perspective and realize important things, the things that truly matter. It was the same for me.
It's crap when someone cheats on you. You're likely to be hurt, angry, and of course, take the betrayal personally. But there is more than one reason for infidelity and cheating doesn't always need to mean that a relationship is over.
Over the years I have spoken with many people, both men and women, who really (really really) wanted to be in a relationship. They had been looking for years, doing all the things they could think of to find someone but to no avail.
What is love? What does it mean to be 'in love'? Is it different for different people? Well individuals by their nature are different so it follows that no two people's experiences are exactly the same, right?
I blush. I know where this is going, and unfortunately I don't feel he's my type. At this point I would usually run a mile, but instead I stand there and share a rare moment of conversation with a stranger.
One piece of advice then, to the devoutly religious looking for love in an increasingly secularised world: make it as clear as possible that you're curious about other perspectives and novel experiences.
I'm not very experienced with dating, I have been on around eleven dates and ten of those were with my now Girlfriend. I hasten to add that two of the aforementioned ten were one of my stand-up comedy gigs and the latter, a drive-in cinema, watch and learn boys, watch and learn.
Many of us get stuck in a rut after a break-up and find it hard to move forward. It can be hard to get over someone when they are constantly in your thoughts. Confidence and self-esteem always take a hit when it's not your choice to end the relationship and hiding away can be a good way of avoiding having to face up to this.
The reasoning behind taking a sabbatical is that it provides a breathing space to reflect on your life, what your relationship means to you, ponder the good and the bad, really consider what it is you want. But are there other ways of reaching that same level of insight and awareness?
These days, however, people don't want to give up their Wednesdays or Thursdays either - these being the preferred evenings for socialising or working late. The first date has therefore been loaded into the front end of the week - along with the rest of life's administration.
From hormone-driven first loves, to long-term partnered 20-somethings, to the newly wedded and those well-into matrimony; we've all witnessed at least one of the above cross that oh-so-fickle faithful line, leaving loyalty far behind.
Couples rarely talk about private masturbation, but not talking about it doesn't mean its not happening. Most people do not stop masturbating when they're in a sexually satisfying relationship.
What I would really have liked for Mothers Day, is something from inside me, and that is my sexy old self back. Not only do I know that sex is vital for the longevity of a relationship, and that is good for me. I miss it.
Why do some couples break up after a couple of years yet others last a lifetime? Here's a model that's considered pretty accurate amongst psychologists when it comes to the stages that all relationships go through. It's not rigid but there are many aspects that most of us recognise.
We women, stopped trying to bring our remarkable female qualities that can only benefit our relationship, our career, our social circles, our community. We think of our unique qualities as something to be ashamed of, given our inner beauty and our female nature held us captives in a male world... only decades ago.
Women are complex creatures and whilst some would be mortified at the idea of splitting a bill down the middle others take great offence to the suggestion that they would be paid for or 'treated' to coin a less suggestive phrase.