Argggghhhhhh! I've got myself in a controversy!!!! In the paper this weekend I talked about a couple of things that I would like to explain further... So I thought I would tell you in my own words what I mean. Firstly, I do like to wear matching underwear... no biggy... I don't do it for Matthew... I do it for me.
Do you know what's more enriching to your life than sitting in an overpriced cocktail bar with a person you're never going to talk to again because there's less sexual frisson than your nan's 80th birthday party and you wish you'd just stayed at home drinking tea and watching Question Time? Going outside and talking to real people.
When it comes to finding love, women in their thirties need to lower their expectations. They need to compromise, stop being so fussy and realise that the older you get the less of a position you are in to start making wild demands about what you expect from a partner. There, I've said it.
It was scary and cruel. I felt unloved, unwanted, and the worst of all, abandoned. I couldn't get on with my life because I was never able to fathom how someone could do that to the person they once claimed to love or care about. And that was how I never had the closure I needed.
Having online dated since time began, it is fair to say that I have had my fair share of both good and bad dates - as a by-product of this I am not someone who expects miracles, far from it in fact, I'm quite happy with half a lager and a packet of salted peanuts these days.
It's a scenario most single girls are familiar with. After somewhat of a dry spell (due to nothing other than your impossibly high standards, obviously) one lad manages to snag your attention and you agree to drinks and maybe even some food. Lucky him.
For women who are in monogamous relationships, an STI diagnosis can raise obvious concerns about infidelity, particularly for older women who may be starting to date again after years in a marriage or a long term commitment.
Stick two people together who have different inclinations along this vast and complicated scale and tensions will naturally arise. Person A can become frustrated with what they may perceive to be a Person B's impulsive behavior. Likewise, B may see the A as cold, unsympathetic or difficult to excite.
If you know your values you can set your intuition to find a mate who also has the same values. Values give off a strong vibe, it is an integral part of a person's soul and often they hardly change through out a lifetime. This makes it easy to intuitively sense that about a person.
Are you "single", "in a relationship", "married? Or do you have an "it's complicated" status? How do you manage your personal relationship via social media? Do you obsessively watch what your partner is doing on there?
The minute the word 'date' enters our mind, the barricades are put in place and judgment... the worst of its kind. Why? We can't face being hurt yet again. The emotional pain is so much harder to deal with than physical. We'd shy away from the opportunity of a lifetime without a hint of a hesitation.
It was hard, very hard, but it's true that time heals. When we go through something like that, we think it's the end of the world. As time goes by and we reflect on our experience, we start to put things into perspective and realize important things, the things that truly matter. It was the same for me.
It's crap when someone cheats on you. You're likely to be hurt, angry, and of course, take the betrayal personally. But there is more than one reason for infidelity and cheating doesn't always need to mean that a relationship is over.
Over the years I have spoken with many people, both men and women, who really (really really) wanted to be in a relationship. They had been looking for years, doing all the things they could think of to find someone but to no avail.
What is love? What does it mean to be 'in love'? Is it different for different people? Well individuals by their nature are different so it follows that no two people's experiences are exactly the same, right?
I blush. I know where this is going, and unfortunately I don't feel he's my type. At this point I would usually run a mile, but instead I stand there and share a rare moment of conversation with a stranger.