There are plenty of different ways to look after ourselves, and most of us amidst the hectic, busy lives we lead often forget how important it is to put ourselves first. Self-care and self-love isn't about ignoring and not looking after others in our lives, it's about making sure we look after ourselves so we can reduce stress, enjoy life and have the time, and strength to be there for those we love.
You can start simple and you can start today. Hear the gobby one in your beer crowd throw about some sexist banter? Call him up on it. If he's a dad, ask him if he wants his son to grow up believing he's better than his mother, if he wants his daughter to grow up in a world where no matter what she achieves, she doesn't matter unless she's hot.
The outright rejection of you based on your race is tempered not by more understanding men, but by attraction to you based on your race, or more specifically, based on pre-conceived notions of what your race has to offer: Big cocks, thug-like masculinity, animalistic lust. When you're strong, you ignore it. When you're desperate, you capitulate.