'Perhaps we should sit down,' WHY DID I SAY THAT? Now he thinks I've killed someone he loves. Great start. With all of the calm of a fully charged vibrator I continued: 'I have something I need to ask you, I was wondering how you would feel, if you would be okay with, if you would allow me...(yep that's all the ways to say that sentence - must get to the point) if I asked Phoebe to marry me?'
The moment you get engaged, get prepared to be inundated with everyone and their mom telling you variations of "don''t get stressed." I'm here to tell you that it is perfectly alright if the prospect of throwing a probably huge, definitely expensive party for your closest family and friends while committing your life to another human being feels a tad bit overwhelming and stressful. It is!
Congratulations, you're getting married! There is no other day in your life that compares with your wedding day. Sure, there are other big events in life that you'll always remember such as graduations, the birth of a child, or holidays of a lifetime, but it's your wedding day that you've probably fantasised about from a young age.
If you planned your wedding with love and affection, included things that you enjoy and had it photographed beautifully then of course we all want to see it. It is great for all the wonderful suppliers you used to get a pat on the back for their good work. We want to feel like we were part of your day and feel inspired.
I found that my planning went absolutely swimmingly until other people were involved. Namely, family. "Why isn't so and so invited? Can I have a plus one?" The simplest answer you can give is "because there is no room". In an ideal world I would have had everyone I love and like. I was limited to 160. Ergo. There were some cuts.
Here's nothing really out there helping us, marriage equality is new. Yes, the debate has been around for a long time, but we're only just starting to see the results of years of hard work. I've seen a few stills from lesbian weddings via Tumblr, and sobbed over Ellen Degeneres and Portia de Rossi's wedding video, but all I can think is how?
Most bridal magazines and experts suggest you give yourself around twelve to eighteen months to plan your big day... I decided it could be done in a hurry, and in fact did just that, saying my vows on the 2 November this year after deciding to get hitched once and for all in the second week of September.
Songbird Kelly Clarkson called off the big wedding she and her fiance were planning this October, because she was 'so overwhelmed' and 'so over' planning it... But for most couples, it's simply not possible. So if you've got to knuckle down and get it done, how do you manage to not hate your own wedding?