Mum's 'Christmas Is Cancelled' Note From 'Elf On The Shelf' Sparks A Parenting Debate

'Your behaviour needs to improve.'

A mum has sparked a parenting debate after she “cancelled Christmas” for her kids due to their poor behaviour.

Photos of the anonymous mum’s Christmas tree have been circulating on social media, showing it wrapped up with cellophane with an ‘Elf On The Shelf’ sat on top.

Elsie the elf has written a note to her kids, that reads: “Christmas is cancelled for now.

“If you want me to keep visiting, a Santa visit, your tree back and your presents back, your behaviour needs to improve.”

The letter continued: “Santa is very angry and I’m disappointed. Be good and say sorry to mum.

“You all have one week to improve. I’m watching.”

The mother is from Queensland, Australia according to a local Australian Facebook page that shared the photo and wrote: “What do you think?”

Some commenters were not impressed. 

“This makes the joy of unconditional receiving and giving of gifts conditional,” wrote one. “These are children.”

Another added: “This takes the joy out of Christmas. All kids misbehave, you shouldn’t ruin it for them.”

However other people thought the mum’s idea was a great way to ensure children behave throughout December.

“I say well done. Its great to see a parent in control,” one wrote. “You do what you have to do, what the kiddies will respond to.”

Another commented: “It’s their choice and I bet you’d have to be at your wits end to do something like that. Personally I would own it, not give credit to the elf or Santa.”

A third person added: “These lucky modern kids got given an opportunity to redeem themselves before the cut-off date. I think us parents are getting soft just like our kids.”

“It’s their choice and I bet you’d have to be at your wits end to do something like that."”

Previously speaking to HuffPost UK, Dr Rachel Andrew, a consultant clinical psychologist specialising in children and family, and director of Time Psychology, said we shouldn’t instil the idea in kids that they need to behave in order to get presents.

Speaking in relation to children behaving in front of ‘Santa Cams’, she said: “Unfortunately, this concept usually 1) is set up in such a vague way that children do not know what we are asking of them, 2) goes on for far too long in order for it to be attainable, and 3) is unenforceable - I have never met a family who have kept all their children’s presents from them.

“If parents use it, they may undermine their own attempts at other times of the year to manage their children’s behaviour.

“Ultimately, parents relying on Santa to manage behaviour may be disappointed that it doesn’t yield any long-term results and that any short-term results seen are based on fear.”

What do you think? It’s it fair to threaten to cancel Christmas? Let us know in the comments below.

Before You Go

Christmas Gifts For Kids
Wooden Kitchen Playset(01 of30)
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Aldi's wooden toy range has been a hit this year, and they've still got products available for Christmas. Let kids make you "breakfast" in bed, without any mess.
Suitable for children aged three and over.
Price: £17.99.
Buy: Aldi, in-store only.
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Real Den Adventure Kit(02 of30)
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This kit has everything your kids will need to build a real den - anywhere.
Suitable for kids aged eight and above.
Price: £34.95.
Buy here.
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My 1st Smartphone(03 of30)
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Whether we like it or not, our little ones will see us on our phones. Get your toddler their very own wooden smartphone with makeshift earphones.
Suitable for children aged three and above.
Price: £12.
Buy here.
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Ice Cream Mug(04 of30)
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Surely ensuring your kids get their recommended daily water intake is *much* more fun when drunk out of an ice cream cup?
Recommended age not stated.
Price: £10.99.
Buy here.
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Playmobil Vet Clinic(05 of30)
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No gift guide is complete without a Playmobil present, and this bargain gift comes with a set-up vet clinic as well as a carry case for just £9.99. Not bad.
Suitable for kids aged four and above.
Price: £9.99.
Buy here.
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Lego Yellow Submarine(06 of30)
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Introduce your kids to the Beatles... and then buy this Lego Yellow Submarine. It even comes with four minifigures: John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison and Ringo Starr.
Suitable for ages 10 and above.
Price: £54.99.
Buy here.
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Fingerlings(07 of30)
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These creatures that balance on fingers seemed to have been dubbed the hottest toy this year - and thankfully you can grab them for under 15 quid.
Suitable for ages five and over.
Price: £14.99.
Buy here.
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Design Your Own Comic Book(08 of30)
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Let your kids get imaginative and crafty with this activity pack to design their own superhero comic book. We sort of want one too.
Suitable for kids aged seven and above.
Price: £9.95.
Buy here.
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Magical Fairy Garden(09 of30)
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A great project for children in the new year: They follow the guide to learn how to construct their own miniature cottage and living garden.
Suitable for children aged four and above.
Price: £16.95.
Buy here.
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Doodle Socks(10 of30)
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We're constantly telling little ones to stop drawing on anything other than paper - but now it's time to do the opposite. These doodle socks let children personalise them how they want.
Suitable for children aged five and above.
Price: £15.29.
Buy here.
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Personalised Xylophone(11 of30)
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Get a child's name transcribed onto their first ever instrument (and be prepared for the noise to follow).
Suitable for kids aged three and above.
Price: £12.10.
Buy here.
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Hatchimals ColleGGTibles(12 of30)
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It was the toy that dominated 2016 and now they are back, cheaper, and available to buy. The mini Hatchimals come in small speckled eggs.
Suitable for children aged five and over.
Price: £2.99.
Buy here.
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Keepsake Storybook(13 of30)
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Be warned: It *might* end up being one of those books that you read over and over again.
Suitable for children aged two to eight.
Price: £15.96.
Buy here.
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DIY Unicorn Kit(14 of30)
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Because let's be honest, who doesn't want to be a unicorn?
Suitable for kids aged 14 and above.
Price: £12.95.
Buy here.
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Paw Patrol Activity Desk(15 of30)
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Fans of 'Paw Patrol' will love the opportunity to draw alongside their favourite characters.
Suitable for ages three to six.
Price: £12.50.
Buy here.
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SoundMoovz(16 of30)
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A new gadget for older kids, where you make music by moving - rather than moving to the music.
Suitable from children aged eight and above.
Price: £39.99.
Buy here.
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Personalised Toy Set(17 of30)
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This soft sculptured tool set offers no-hurt fun - got any DIY to be getting on with?
Suitable for kids aged 12 months and above.
Price: £38.
Buy here.
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Zoo Apron(18 of30)
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Inspire kids to cook with this brightly-coloured apron, but be prepared for the mess!
Age recommendation not stated.
Price: £10.
Buy here.
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Monkey Pins(19 of30)
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A perfect indoor game to play with the little ones on Christmas day.
Suitable for kids aged three and above.
Price: £5.80.
Buy here.
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Moana Doll(20 of30)
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Moana has to be up there as one of everyone's favourite Disney characters this year.
Suitable for ages 36 months to seven years.
Price: £24.99.
Buy here.
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Whizz World Train Station(21 of30)
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With sounds and bright colours, toddlers will have a whale of a time with their new train set.
Suitable for kids from 12 months and above.
Price: £20.
Buy here.
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Bath Toy Sea Plane(22 of30)
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Your kids can let the sea plane ride the water, making bath time so much more fun.
Suitable for ages one and above.
Price: £13.50.
Buy here.
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Wooden Stationery Set(23 of30)
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This 75-piece set has everything a kid needs to create their very own masterpiece.
Age recommendation not stated.
Price: £10.
Buy here.
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Dinosaur Projector(24 of30)
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Any dinosaur fans? This projector shares images of kids' favourite dinosaurs onto walls and ceilings.
Suitable for children aged three to 10.
Price: £9.99.
Buy here.
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Monster Backpack(25 of30)
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An ideal gift for kids to keep their cuddly toys, snacks, drinks and other essential items safe.
Suitable for ages two to five.
Price: £12.98.
Buy here.
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Glow In The Dark Tape(26 of30)
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Stick this tape anywhere to make magical glow-in-the-dark lines when the lights are switched off.
Recommended age not stated.
Price: £8.99.
Buy here.
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2 In 1 World Globe(27 of30)
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As well as having a normal globe, where kids can point out countries and capital cities, this globe also has a night function (doubling up as a night light) showing the earth as seen from space, with colour-changing LEDs.
Suitable for ages eight and above.
Price: £32.99.
Buy here.
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Soothe And Glow Seahorse(28 of30)
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When this seahorse is cuddled, the belly gently glows and plays five minutes of music and ocean sounds. It then gradually fades out.
Suitable from birth.
Price: £14.99.
Buy here.
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VTech Kidizoom Duo Camera(29 of30)
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Give your kids the role of photographer for the day with their own snazzy camera. The back has a digital display so they can see what photos they've taken, a front camera to take selfies, and the ability to add fun effects, stamps and frames.
Suitable for ages three and above.
Price: £39.74.
Buy here.
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Glittery Space Dough(30 of30)
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It's not just any old dough, it's glittery "super space" dough - made from natural ingredients - that comes with a star-shaped cutter (and yes, the sequin stars are included, too).
Suitable for children ages three and above.
Price: £5.95.
Buy here.
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