Hug Button: The Simple Tool Parents Can Use To Comfort Anxious Children Heading Back To School

We absolutely love this idea 💕🙌

A mum came up with the genius idea of creating “hug buttons” to comfort her son who was anxious about starting school, and it has gone down well with other parents

Louise Mallett, from Ipswich, said her four-year-old son Max was feeling a “little emotional” on the morning of his first full day of school. 

“We had a chat and came up with the idea of having a heart each [on our hands] and if we pressed it, it sent a hug to the other one,” she explained.

“He said he cried as he missed me on his first half day last week, but this totally worked.”

Mallett drew a heart on the palms of their hands, and gave her son a spare one on his arm in case the one on his hand wore off. 

They “charged” the heart on the morning before school by holding hands on the school run. To receive “hugs” during the day, Max just had to press on his heart - and it was a roaring success.

“When I picked him up, I said: ‘Did you get my hugs?’ and he happily said: ‘Yep, I pressed it for a long time mummy but I didn’t cry’,” the mum explained.

“So I said: ‘Ahhhh that will be that big squeeze I got, did you get my big squeeze back?’ and he said: ‘Yep!’

“Bless him, here’s to many more happy days at school.” 

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Louise Mallett and her son Max.

Mallett initially shared her story on a private parenting group on Facebook called The Motherload and it gained such attention that she was encouraged by mums on the group to share it publicly on her own page.

She shared an update on the third day of using the hug button, and wrote: “Day three and we’re still doing the hug heart. He told me off this morning as we were holding hands the wrong side and he said: ‘They won’t charge mummy!’

“Silly me. He said he’s still sending me hugs and I told him I felt every one and always sent one back and he said he got them all.”

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Editor of parenting blog The Motherload Alison McGarragh-Murphy told HuffPost UK: “The new school year has just started and our members have been talking about the struggles of their children who are finding it difficult to settle in as they start school for the very first time.

“So when Louise Mallett posted the gorgeous photo of her and Max’s hug buttons we absolutely loved her idea - as did our members. Lots of mums in our lovely supportive community tried hug buttons too, and found that they also helped their child cope better with going to school for the first time.

“It’s such a sweet, simple way to help your child feel happier and more settled. All you need is a pen, two hands and a lot of love.” 

Before You Go

Back To School Stationery 2017
Wave Pencil Case(01 of21)
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The essential item to hold all stationery in one place. Paperchase has so many different patterns, but this brightly-coloured piece stood out for us.
Price: £7.
Buy: Paperchase, click here.
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Pack Of 12 Pencils(02 of21)
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A pack of 12 pencils with eraser nibs - essential for your child's pencil case.
Price: £1.
Buy: Tesco, click here.
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Pack Of 24 Coloured Pencils(03 of21)
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No pencil case is complete without a set of coloured pencils. This set has 24 shades and is a bargain at under a fiver.
Price: £3.99.
Buy: WHSmiths, click here.
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Mini Stationery Set(04 of21)
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We love this back to school mini set from M&S including many of the essentials: A stapler, sellotape, scissors, sharpener, plastic clips and a pencil.
Price: £5.
Buy: M&S, click here.
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Tropical Large Pencil Case(05 of21)
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If your child has coloured pencils as well as pens to fit in their pencil case, maybe go for a larger one? We absolutely love the print on this tropical-themed zip-up case.
Price: £12.95.
Buy: Ohh Deer, click here.
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Scented Highlighters(06 of21)
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A fun addition to your child's stationery hoard - and they'll be useful if your son or daughter is in secondary school and has a lot of reading to do. Oh, and they're scented!
Price: £3.50.
Buy: Smiggle, click here.
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Handwriting Pens(07 of21)
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These pens have an ergonomic grip and quick-drying ink, so are great for kids in the later years of primary school.
Price: £2.99.
Buy: Cult Pens, click here.
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Gel Pens(08 of21)
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Gel pens have the power to make homework more interesting. These fine-pointed pens start from £1.
Price: From £1.
Buy: MUJI, click here.
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Doodle Notebook(09 of21)
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Depending on whether your child is in primary or secondary school, they might find having a spare notebook handy. A great place to store homework notes, deadlines and important dates at school.
Price: £3.95.
Buy: Ohh Deer, click here.
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Compact Maths Set(10 of21)
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If your child is heading to (or already at) secondary school, it's extremely likely they'll need a maths set. This handy compact case has a ruler, protractor and compass, along with a sharpener, too.
Price: £1.49.
Buy: Ryman, click here.
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Eraser Set(11 of21)
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It's so much more fun when rubbers are colourful and different shapes. These six rubbers fit in a pineapple-shaped box.
Price: £1.75.
Buy: Wilko, click here.
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Pukka Pad(12 of21)
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If your son or daughter is studying different topics in secondary school, they might find it useful to have a project notepad that will separate out sections for different subjects.
Price: £5.33.
Buy: Staples, click here.
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Personalised Pencils(13 of21)
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Does your child have a birthday before they head back to school or do you want to get them a treat? These personalised pencils aren't cheap, but they are fancy. 12 in a pack.
Price: £11.99.
Buy: Dotty About Paper, click here.
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Double Sharpener(14 of21)
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It's small, practical and cheap.
Price: 35p.
Buy: Morrisons, click here.
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BiC Biros(15 of21)
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Just like pencils are a staple in the pencil case, so is a pack of standard biro pens.
Price: £1.50.
Buy: Asda, click here.
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Pritt Stick(16 of21)
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Always handy - whether they're sticking worksheets into their books or doing crafty projects, you can't go wrong.
Price: £2.
Buy: Asda, click here.
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A4 Folder(17 of21)
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This folder comes in a range of colours. It's great for storing worksheets, ideas for a project or revision notes.
Price: £1.25.
Buy: Wilko, click here.
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Sticky Notes(18 of21)
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These sticky notes can be helpful to mark important pages in books, write down little reminders or make a homework page look even more interesting.
Price: £3.50.
Buy: Paperchase, click here.
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Scientific Calculator(19 of21)
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A must-have for secondary school students for GCSE maths (and no, we don't know what all the buttons mean anymore, either).
Price: £11.99.
Buy: Casio, click here.
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Design Your Own Diary(20 of21)
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Some secondary schools provide diaries/planners for the pupils, and some don't, but they're helpful for putting in homework deadlines and lessons. TOAD diaries allow you to completely customise how you want your planner to look, including the start month, the words on the front and how the week looks.
Price: £12.36.
Buy: TOAD Diaries, click here.
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All In One School Box(21 of21)
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Would you rather get everything in one big package? Postboxed has created a back to school gift box including a notepad, pencil, colouring pencils, a pencil case AND sticky notes. Oh and it's free delivery.
Price: £25.95.
Buy: Postboxed, click here.
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