Recently I chatted with a dear friend of mine, who had been given some devastating news: after ten years of infertility investigations
On my 40th birthday I found myself sobbing uncontrollably. It seemed to come out of nowhere. I remember feeling as though
If you see me walking down the street, dressed up to the nines to meet my friends for a night out, or on my way to work, you'd be forgiven for assuming I was the epitome of Western privilege, and in many ways I am: educated; employed; financially independent; a homeowner, albeit mortgaged - although otherwise debt-free.
Years later, feeling strong and positive once more, I made a conscious decision not to let the whole experience of being turned away from the Mum Club continue to get me down. I had a lightbulb moment - an idea so obvious that I instantly wondered why I'd not come up with it sooner: I'd open my own club.
Crabtree and Evelyn mini hand cream crackers Image Credit: Judith Lewis I've gone and gotten about a half dozen Divine chocolate
Realising that you are never going to be a mother or father is utterly heart-breaking. For many, where childlessness has not been a choice, the prospect of facing life without children is all-consuming & devastating. From wondering what to do with your life now, dealing with social exclusion to healing the deep sadness which lies within your soul, childlessness is anything but a straight forward process.
Being a parent is no measure of intellectual acumen, emotional intelligence or strategic ability. Just as fatherhood isn't an acknowledged badge of ability in either the political or business world, to value women on the basis of whether they are or aren't a mother is to seriously undervalue them...
I wrote to Health Secretary Jeremy Hunt earlier this year to introduce a National Tariff for IVF. My call for national tariff
As a 27-year-old, children don't feature very heavily in my life - none of my friendship group have children (they are barely able to look after themselves) and I'm the oldest sibling, so I have no nieces and nephews to speak of.
I know lots of people who have children and most of them are newborns or recentborns. I see them struggling with sleep deprivation and feeding and can't help but feel a little envious. I really would give anything. Anything. I don't want to steal your baby though.