Grieving is the bodies way of letting go. Trust your body, it has millions of years of knowing what to do when it comes to loss. Our natural response is to be strong, keep going, to not look back, stiff upper lip and all that. But doing that only stuffs down the feelings and they will eventually come up somewhere or somehow like depression, anger, drinking and drugs.
Escaping pain never works. You can try, but there will always be a time when you are left alone in the abyss of your thoughts and the pain will re-surface. Drugs, sex, alcohol.. they are perfect engines for your own escape, but eventually they will become your consistent means of running away from what is actually hurting you.
Schools, you either love them or hate them, a little bit like Marmite I guess. Some say school years are the best years of your life, some even say school reminds them of their youth. But what do you think of when you reminisce about your youth? Do you see school as a good thing or do you feel let down by your school?
Many men feel guilty or even ashamed of these feelings, some resentful or angry at their partner or child. A lot of new dads find themselves alone with these feelings. Helpless and unable to share with anyone, they retreat emotionally as the pain of emotional isolation is so hard to bear. As a result of this, some men also decide to leave the family.
What helps if you have depression is realising that you are not alone, that this 'illness' actually exists like any other physical illness; you are not making it up and you are not some self-indulgent, self-obsessed narcissist who's looking for pity or an excuse not show up at work or school.
By learning each day to take care of yourself, you will start to be an example to your colleagues, friends and family. Many of us are more motivated to do something positive when we realise the potential impact it can have on others.
Being diagnosed with Mental Health, in particular Depression and Anxiety at the age of 14 years was not easy to cope with. I worried about telling other people that I had Mental Health, it was never taught on the school curriculum and it appeared to me at the time, that many wouldn't understand the condition.
Do we spend too much time trying to let go of things that would just naturally drop off if we focused our attention on joy and happiness?
You know the situation well. You sit down with some close friends, enjoying a good conversation for a few minutes. Then someone checks their phone. You see another friend pick up hers, then another friend follows suit and, in a moment, they are all silent; transfixed by the screens in front of them.
This social norm leads many people who battle depression to suffer in silence instead of reaching out for help. However, it needs to be said that it's not "weak" or "sissy" for a person to admit that they're struggling and in need of assistance. Rather, it's the smart and sensible thing to do - as anyone who's recovered and who now lives a happy, healthy life will tell you.
Since my first mental health assessment at university I've been waiting for six weeks for my counselling to begin. The wellbeing services know I have been self-harming and have expressed an interest in suicide yet I've heard nothing from the wellbeing centre for nearly two months.
I'm so glad I didn't kill myself... Unfortunately, I know that place well. I've been to that place where all hope is lost, where death seems to be the only salvation.
Scientific evidence has shown that neurons (brain cells) can rewire and change patterns throughout your lifetime as a result of your experiences and how you think about them. So your thoughts affect the physiology of your brain and the physiology affects your thoughts.
Photo: Basykes/Flickr I'm big on personal development, and one of my favorite PD concepts is the Slight Edge Principle, because it helped me re...
Despite the fact that attitudes are different towards other health issues, and that attitudes towards issues such as sexuality, culture, ethnicity, gender and disabilities are changing, discrimination against people who are suffering with mental health problems are still very widespread.
'I know how you feel'. This is OK if you have suffered from depression and you actually do know how the person feels. But if you haven't, it can be really annoying.