I run the Gentlemen's Dads Club and I'm part of The Parenting Chapter as a dad expert, I had a life that looked perfect on paper, but after the births of my two children I struggled to cope. Here, I explain how I overcame postnatal depression and why it spurred me on to help other men in the same position
Perimenopause is a relatively new term coined in last twenty years to describe symptoms caused by hormonal fluctuation that occur as a woman approaches menopause. The symptoms can be broad ranging but mood swings can be the difficult one to handle. There are medical treatments or alternate dietary solutions but the simplest thing to start with is, to do what makes you feel happy.
I wish I could remember when it happened; the moment I was switched off and I lost all desire to do 'IT' anymore. I definitely wanted to do it the day I conceived my first child, so at least that is somewhere to start...
Friendship: A chance meeting that develops into fun, memories and a million WhatsApp messages. Your only agenda for being there is because you want to be, it's a bond built on pure appreciation of a particular person. Maybe that's why a friends pain can sometimes feel like a personal attack.
I tried to tell a friend for comfort and she told me I was a potential danger to her child so needed to stay away. I was devastated. I did not know what to say and simply withdrew further into my mental anguish, staying away from everyone like a shamed hermit. Silenced again by another person's opinion which I valued dearly at the time.
There's been a discussion in the media recently about men who develop depression after the birth of their child. The crux of the debate is whether or not this can be called "postnatal depression".
I wish I could say that my stalker no longer impacts my life. But they do. And they don't just affect my life. They threaten the happiness of my family. My two precious children and my loving husband. And for that I despise them.
The word 'depression' is flung around as if it is a normal emotion but in reality, depression takes lives. It needs to be understood in the same way a physical health problem is.
When I sat down to write this I was scared. The reason I was scared was because as a society in general there are things we talk about. And then there are things we don't talk about. I think the right word I'm looking for is taboo. This is one of them.
Now when was the last time you spoke to someone about their mental health? You may not realise it, but you most likely work and socialise with someone who manages an invisible condition, such as depression
Today, April 7th, is the birthday of the World Health Organisation (WHO), 'born' in 1948. Happy World Health Day! But is it 'happy', considering th...
Life with depression is not easy and recovery can be a long, hard road. Never judge your partner and how they cope with their depression. If you have not been there, you cannot comprehend the intensity of the experience. All you can do is be there. Things will get better.
What if depression was actually amnesia? As I started a practise of meditation I started to remember parts of self that had been long forgotten, parts that were so beyond the judging mind, parts that were peaceful, playful and connected to a much wider energy field than 'self'.
I'm talking about the side of mental health we avoid talking about, the side that makes us feel embarrassed, the one that has a stigma and makes people feel uncomfortable - mental health problems. The truth is that throughout our lives we are very likely to experience a mental health problem, temporary or longer-term.
My wife asked me recently why I run and couldn't think immediately of a logical reason. It's sometimes painful and quite often an intrusion into my ev...
Never underestimate the impact just being there listening to someone can make a huge difference... Sometimes we all need to feel there is someone there to support us in a time of vulnerability without fear of judgement or stigma.