We have two nervous systems. One is the sympathetic nervous system or the "on" switch for anxiety and the other is the parasympathetic nervous system or the "off" switch. We need to learn where those switches are and what turns them on and then what turns them off and let me tell you it's not simple either, but also not impossible.
Since I've practiced these steps I've discovered lightness and ease that has replaced the anxiety. I now see that my need to try and control the future left me no room to enjoy today. The drive to control every outcome has left me, yet nothing outside has changed. I had been trying to find happiness but instead I've learnt to be free of unhappiness.
The £1.2 trillion question is this. What will it take for older people to release their housing equity in order to plan for care? For me the answer lies in changing the conversation about planning for later life and providing an environment where the focus is on relationships and contribution.
Toby Maguire is the Stress Management trainer at The Body Holiday, St Lucia, where he has been working for 3 years. Before joining the renowned wellbeing resort he spent 12 years in Thailand where he set up his own hotel and spa training company whilst working as a stress management consultant, meditation instructor, life coach and holistic practitioner at health and wellness resorts.
Our lifestyles often mean we have no reserves of energy to draw on if something happens and we find ourselves in crises. Many of us work flat out for years without taking a break. Our bodies are used to short bouts of effort and stress, but we are simply not designed for it to go on for years. We have to find what makes us happy and add it into our lives now for optimum health.
Dear Penny and Jim, I'm writing to thank you for having me on The Breakfast Show on BBC London last Thursday. I don't know if you remember me; you were running a news piece about the tragic death of Tallulah Wilson, a girl who suffered from an eating disorder and subsequently killed herself in late 2012...
'Bulimic' spenders -purchase only to rush back to the shops, guilt-stricken to return what they've bought, once they realise they can't afford it or that it's not actually going to give them the lifestyle they want. Although their 'reverse shopping' habit keeps their finances under control they expose themselves to high stress levels and feelings of self-loathing.
Often when growing up many of us were shamed for not being perfect, criticised harshly for not getting things right first time, even mocked or ridiculed, emotionally or physically abused, or ignored. If any of that resonates with you, the chances are fairly high that unless you have re-framed all of the punishing lessons you learned as a child you will have low self -esteem.
What if Valentine's Day, or relationships in general, were a stark reminder of the most painful and distressing events that you ever experienced? What if they triggered a trauma so terrifically challenging that it forever altered your approach to life? Welcome to Valentine's Day, and relationships, for adoptees.
Although, thankfully, this winter has not been as cold as the last, the nights are still long and and days dreary. Many of us are prone to reduced energy levels, lower mood and increased depression and anxiety during the winter months.
A lie, however, will always linger. It travels with you and the person you lied to. A lie comes back to stare you in the face at unexpected moments, creating another lie and another lie...
I have never met Alastair Campbell, Tony Blair's former spin doctor, but I could not help but sit up and take notice when he said publicly that he is back on anti-depressants to help him fight his mental illness.
Have you ever felt like you are losing touch with yourself? Or have you ever felt like you do not know yourself anymore? Losing connection to one's inner drive and motivation is common and often brings people to counselling or therapy. Do you recognize any of the following?
I keep collapsing into a ball of tears, mourning my father's departure (as far as euphemisms for death go, that one is bearable, don't you think?) back in September. It was followed swiftly by that of a close friend, Kate, an accomplished artist whose personal kindnesses to me had, over the years, become impossible to keep count of.
We cannot ignore or minimise the affect addiction has on others. The reality is that there is no happy ending for anyone involved in the life of an addict. My children have lost their father and I have lost my best friend.
I'm just here to tell you that feeling depressed or lonely is natural and your negative perception of the world is just that, a perception. Everywhere you look there are people who give a damn, so allow them to do so. They aren't psychic and because you're so good at hiding your true feelings, they may never know without your help.