Domestic Violence can happen to anyone, I know that now because it happened to me. We were living a middle classed life that from the outside was enviable. The whole time I was at war with the man I had invited in mine and my kids' lives.
Divorce sounds pretty final doesn't it? But for some couples that is not the end of the story. There have been a few high profile divorce cases recently where the court has ruled that divorce payments must increase, despite the fact that the couples divorced many years earlier and their children are grown up.
I fought for ages about seeking professional help. My defense was "I'm fine!". On reflection, the early days of the split were when I needed help the most, over 4 years on I believe that this lack of professional help in the early stages has impacted on how I deal with my emotions now. Go get help and don't be embarrassed about it!
I am standing on an unsteady conveyor belt, clutching 5 crystal glasses in one hand, the other is stretched out to catch a priceless bottle of red from smashing to the floor. On my back is one child, and on my front is the other.
When you first split up with your partner I am sure (as I know from experience) that advice will flow in from a variety of angles - especially family and friends. They mean well, but not all advice should be taken as gospel
Seems crazy, but ever since Boxing Day the shelves of local and national stores have been packed with gifts and goodies to tempt people in relationships to buy something for their loved one to celebrate the one day a year when it is expected that your spouse will show they care!
Your world has been flipped upside down.You feel completely out of control and the sadness and agony is probably like nothing you have ever experienced. What makes this situation more difficult is the fact that it's not just two people who have split, it's a family.
I've just launched a Petition on Change.org calling for the existing court rule that legal costs must be proportionate to the value of the dispute to ...
Meet a boy, fall in love, have adventures, lazy Sundays, make memories, get married, settle down, throw a Toddlermonster or two into the mix and before long you can barely recognise yourselves.
Divorce is often a difficult journey and whilst that journey varies from person to person, almost everyone only reaches their Divorce Monday after having tried harder than most people can imagine possible. Whilst there's no denying that divorce is a hard path to take, it's certainly no failure.
Becoming a single parent was the worst and the best thing that has ever happened to me. At the time, it was devastating: I felt I had screwed up my life and my children's lives fundamentally, irreversibly, unforgivably.
Usually the decree absolute marks the end of my work with my divorce clients, however, recently I have been getting back in touch with some of them to find out how they are getting on now. With them all I have found they are in a much better place in their lives
A small yet growing number of my clients are telling me that having either their own or their partner's adult children living with them is a contributing factor in their relationship break down. In some cases adult children are moving back and bringing their own partner with them.
Photo: www.fotolia.com Whilst thankfully many of us have had harmonious and relaxing Christmas breaks, sadly the same can't be said for some coup...
So, whether you are the initiator of the divorce, it has been a collaborative decision or you have been dealt the blow by your partner, divorce does not have to destroy you. On the contrary it can be a very cathartic experience (not necessarily pain free), if you are willing to engage in the process.
The first day that legal offices are open after Christmas is known as D-Day, when family solicitors are inundated with enquiries about divorce. While ...