I don't know why this is. I don't know why divorce still ends up defining who you are while in reality it's a journey, an experience you have been through - it's not you, it's something that happened. Just like being laid off is something that you once went through at some point in your life.
Marrying someone until death do us part purely on the basis of true love is a charming idea. But I choose not to marry, not because I disagree with the institution per se but more that I am realistic about the chances of survival when a married is based on 'love' alone.
When Princess Diana was going through her divorce and her settlement was made public (I believe it was in the millions of pounds) there was a radio discussion going on and people where calling into lamenting that the settlement was too much and saying that she needs to get a grip on reality.
Victims will often protect their abusers in public for fear of any repercussions at home. They will act the loving couple so that nobody suspects and even to convince themselves that things are not as bad as they are. It is often only when the abuse has gone too far and there is no way back that the victim will confide in a close friend or family member.
In the light of the Leveson hacking inquiry, the issue of safeguarding the individual's privacy has been found to be paramount. Whilst there have been few prosecutions arising from "relationship hacking" in divorce or relationship breakdown, this is certainly set to change.
Wedding bells are on their way out - we mere mortals should expect to hear just a faint tingle of their quaint ding-dong. Yet I, along with many others, will be donning a white dress and saying 'I do' in just under a year's time. So why, quite frankly, do we bother?
Whilst we often hear about unusual cases that come before the Court of unreasonable behaviour, the above are the most common reasons quoted. Each one of them potentially being the straw that breaks the camel's back and forcing one of the parties into a solicitors' office.
Many divorcing parents struggle to identify the best approach for the children. It is a roller coaster at the best of times and when you throw children into the mix it becomes a minefield of emotional management.
There is a lot of focus on the outcome of the referendum in Scotland next week. What most people don't seem to realize is that whatever the outcome it is already over between Scotland and the rest of the UK. It was over the moment that Scotland decided it might want to leave.
When I lived for ten years with my children's father we had three children, and when the relationship abruptly ended, the phrase: "Well it's the same as being married" - proved to be a lie. You can tell yourself that while you are together, but don't be foolish enough to think it's the same when you are splitting up.
As he sobbed on my shoulder over losing his recent girlfriend whilst our relationship - the one I had thought was 'until death do us part' - had been tossed aside without a single visible tear, I contemplated a terrifying future with no home, a career long past, becoming a single parent and worst of all, I was about to turn 40 that year.
There are all warning signs that you need to STOP and FOCUS on your marriage. It will not fix itself. You need to take time out if you want to avoid things getting worse. If you leave them too long then you will head towards what I call the "switch flicking moment". This is the point of no return when something just changes and you no longer feel that attraction to your partner.
In this second of a short series of articles, I explore how family arbitration could provide an element of psychological security on the bumpy road of...
Do we really put our children first? Separation for parents can be amongst the toughest experiences in life; the hurt, anger, pain and insecurity can be unbearable, and in those moments of feeling utter rejection you are meant to act responsibly on behalf of the children so that they are put first?
We are seeing a growing tide of women of this sort who are being divorced by their younger husbands as soon as they reach middle age. In fact, cases of this nature are up just over a third in the course of the last three years.
It appears that the baby boomers have decided to shake up old age and are now opting for married life again rather than a blue rinse or a pair of slippers. According to latest figures from the Office for National Statistics marriage rates have risen for people in their sixties.