There are all warning signs that you need to STOP and FOCUS on your marriage. It will not fix itself. You need to take time out if you want to avoid things getting worse. If you leave them too long then you will head towards what I call the "switch flicking moment". This is the point of no return when something just changes and you no longer feel that attraction to your partner.
In this second of a short series of articles, I explore how family arbitration could provide an element of psychological security on the bumpy road of...
Do we really put our children first? Separation for parents can be amongst the toughest experiences in life; the hurt, anger, pain and insecurity can be unbearable, and in those moments of feeling utter rejection you are meant to act responsibly on behalf of the children so that they are put first?
We are seeing a growing tide of women of this sort who are being divorced by their younger husbands as soon as they reach middle age. In fact, cases of this nature are up just over a third in the course of the last three years.
It appears that the baby boomers have decided to shake up old age and are now opting for married life again rather than a blue rinse or a pair of slippers. According to latest figures from the Office for National Statistics marriage rates have risen for people in their sixties.
Divorces over here amongst highflyers have never been so acute. This in turn has led to many counsellors actively advising women to try to dumb themselves down in their relationships because men are finding women who are more intelligent and earning more than them entirely threatened to their psyche and male ego.
'Marriages in which wives have the educational advantage were once more likely to dissolve, but this association has disappeared in more recent marriage cohorts'... is the only reason that educated women are staying married longer because men are becoming more emotionally intelligent?
I never neglected my babies, they knew they were loved and they always had everything they needed but I certainly wasn't hands on. I did a great deal of remote control parenting. You know the kind of parenting I mean right? When you're too tired to move from your position on the couch so you shout instructions from there and generally say yes to anything your offspring request just to make it easier on yourself.
Having parental responsibility means that you both can make decisions with regards to the upbringing of the child, his/her education and general wellbeing but surely that is a good thing right? For the child I mean, not you.
Family Arbitration can rescue a mediated divorce from crumbling into a nasty expensive court battle, so should more mediators be paying attention to it as a resource for their clients?
If you believe in the importance of open dialogue with your child and want to show your support for children who have no one to talk to then upload the most awkward conversation you've ever had with your child on the hub today or click on the share buttons on the Awkward Conversations hub to take part.
Are you in your 20's or 30's and loads of your friends are getting married or planning to get married? Do you fear you will never be a bride or groom? Then fear not. Get married later in life and your chances of divorce are lowered.
Her revealing comment punctuates the most relevant part of the story. Behind the whirl of glamorous and rather chilling facts of this case that makes something as personal and emotional as divorce an easy headline, it stands out how his wife was with him from the beginning of his rise from a student at university in Perm in the forbidding Ural Mountains and married 23 years ago in Cyprus.
In a situation where a person finds themselves 'dumped' the chances are they are unlikely to be of sane enough mind to walk down the street without collapsing in a crumpled heap, much less, select a suitable aromatherapy treatment. They will feel rage, they will feel fury, they will feel a burning resentment and bitterness for every man walking the planet.
If you are in the middle of divorce, you can get pretty low. Let's face it, the whole divorce process is exhausting, there is so much new info to take on board, with advice from your lawyer, financial advisor, friends and colleagues. Plus you are carving a new pathway for yourself and your family and learning to live a new life.
I remember everything from conversations I've had, to outfits I've worn, to meals I've eaten. And I remember the things people have said to me. It's not that I harbour grudges. I don't. But like the saying goes, I never forget the way someone has made me feel.