I went for my 12 week scan three weeks ago and found out I had a missed miscarriage. I hadn't even heard of missed miscarriages before then and have since realised that miscarriages in general aren't really talked about and are something we deal with in private. But I wish more people would talk about them.
In my role as fully paid-up member of the smug set, I like to empower parents and share information and strategies that they can use to make decisions that feel right for them at the time. I don't believe that having a good birth is the luck of the draw, but nor do I believe that your baby's mode of exit is really cause for smugness of any kind.