building modern men

What father raising his male child without a mother would feel like he'd succeeded in raising him the way his mother would have wanted, if he grew up to believe he was somehow superior to the opposite sex?
I was always an effeminate child and this would be discouraged by my parents. In my community there are strict guidelines. A man must be a man and a woman must be a woman. There are no in betweens.
Chris was gone. The brother who was born in the same year as me, but wasn't my twin. Irish twins it's called. Born 11 months apart, stuck at the hip while we were kids, the one who used to take the flak for all my mischief.