Although men frequently complain about decreased sensitivity with condoms, a 2013 study found no difference in satisfaction ratings between men who wore condoms and those who didn't. The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, also found no significant differences in men's ability to have erections with, or without, condoms.
They may be not perfect, but condoms are currently the only way to stem the tide. Once older couples are in a monogamous relationship, they can have a joint sexual health screening at a genitourinary clinic and if the results are clear they can ditch the condoms, because an infection can only be contracted if there is one present.
I won't indulge myself in my own personal problems with the Mass, how the language sounds to my ear a lot like lines Christopher Lee should be spouting whilst dancing around a windswept island in The Wicker Man ('It is right to give Him thanks and praise'), because I'll probably come across exactly as I am. A man who vehemently railed against his indoctrinal upbringing mid-teens when he realised his homosexuality made him, in the Dr Eckleburg eyes of the church, a sinner.
Up until the age of 40 (2002) I was a responsible gay man. I ensured that I used protection every time I had a casual sexual encounter. I was not in a committed relationship at that stage, so it was not even an option for me to bareback with someone. I found that exceptionally scary at the time, as I was aware of how easy it was to contract STDs, especially HIV.