Jamelia Reveals Domestic Violence In Past Abusive Relationship That Left Her Fearing For Her Life During 'Loose Women' Discussion

Jamelia Reveals Abusive Past Relationship
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Jamelia has spoken candidly about her personal experiences with domestic violence, revealing that her abusive relationship even left her fearing for her life.

During an emotional discussion on Wednesday afternoon’s ‘Loose Women’, Jamelia said that she still found her experiences “the hardest thing to talk about”, explaining that she was speaking out so that other women suffering would not feel like they were alone.

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She said: “For me, the best thing I could have ever done was to share my story. The best thing I could do was let other women know that they are not alone because that's exactly how I felt.

“I felt as if no one would understand, no one would get it. I couldn't tell anyone I felt so embarrassed.

“You also have to understand that this was whilst I was enjoying a career and i would be on ‘Top Of The Pops’ one minute and then I would be going home and getting punched in the face. I’m sorry if that’s a bit shocking but that was my reality.”

The singer went on to admit that it was the birth of her daughter that finally pushed her to leave the abusive relationship, explaining: “My daughter was four weeks old and he hit me when I was breastfeeding her. It was at that point that I realised that being in a relationship is a choice and I am choosing this and I am going to continue to choose this on behalf of my child.

"As scared as I was, I was completely fearful of being killed and I thought I'd much rather leave and risk him killing me, than stay with him and have my daughter watch him slowly kill me anyway."

Jamelia has sung about her abusive past in her single ‘Thank You’, a song which she claims first highlighted to her how massive a problem domestic violence still is.

She added: “It was purely a therapeutic experience for me. After releasing the song and getting hundreds and hundreds of letters - from women and people affected by domestic abuse - that was the first time that I felt ‘this is not only me, I'm not the only person in this situation’.”

Watch the video for Jamelia’s single ‘Thank You’ below:

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Charlize Theron (01 of07)
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Charlize Theron's father was killed by her mother in self defence in 1991. The oscar-winning actress now funds rape crisis centres in south Africa. (credit:PA Wire/PA Wire)
Rula Lenska(02 of07)
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Dennis Waterman claimed he'd "lashed out" at ex-wife Rula Lenska because she was clever and could "argue well."She said her former husband needed to face up to what he'd done wrong."He's still not taking responsibility. It's: "It's not my fault, no, it's because she's this and she's that.""Perhaps he imagines that in the eyes of the people watching, it's a rather heroic admission. "Yeah, I slapped my wife around and I'm really ashamed."" (credit:Matt Crossick/EMPICS Entertainment)
Christina Aguilera(03 of07)
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Before becoming a pop superstar and actress Christina Aguilera grew up in a house where there was, in her own words "so much domestic violence.""I think the reason that my drive was so strong and I was so passionate about music was because I grew up in an environment of domestic violence," she said. (credit:AP)
Tina Turner(04 of07)
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Tina Turner was regularly beaten by her husband Ike, who she left in 1976. She hid from him for six months, with just 36c to her name. The superstar's career eventually picked up again but after she left her husband of 14 years Turner had to live on food stamps. (credit:AP)
Jamelia(05 of07)
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Jamelia, who wrote the 2004 song Thank You about an abusive ex, has said she feels stronger now as a result of her experiences. (credit:John Phillips/UK Press)
Beverley Knight(06 of07)
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Women's aid patron Beverly Knight has said she was a victim of domestic abuse. She told the Telegraph an ex-boyfriend had grabbed her around the throat and slapped her. "I went to the kitchen and grabbed a knife and waved it in his face, and said: 'Don't you ever do that to me again.'" (credit:Anthony Devlin/PA Wire)
Rihanna(07 of07)
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Rihanna has said she thought her ex boyfriend Chris Brown "needed help" after he beat her in 2009."As angry as I was, as angry and hurt and betrayed, I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help ... and who's going to help him?" she told Oprah. (credit:EMPICS Sport/EMPICS Sport)