WISE WORDS: Giles Coren On The Untold Benefits Of Therapy, And A Good Nap

'I used to be a very angry person.'

For the latest in our WISE WORDS interview series - where stars from a whole range of fields share the important life lessons they’ve learned along the way - we’re posing some of the big questions to journalist GILES COREN.

Once called “the angriest man in Britain”, Giles is a longtime journalist, most recently for The Times. He has encountered more than his share of controversy, but professes himself officially serene these days after years of psycho-analysis. He has co-starred with Sue Perkins in ‘Edwardian Supersize Me’ and ‘The Supersizers Go’ series for the BBC.

He was named Food and Drink Writer of the Year at the British Press Awards in 2005, and is still the Times’ resident restaurant critic. He has teamed up with online restaurant booking website OpenTable for their latest poll into how many people complain about their meal, and which city has the most complainers. To mark this association, Giles sat down with HuffPostUK for some Wise Words... 

What do you do to switch off?
I sleep. I sleep nine hours every night, I have a little nap after lunch, and, if I’m going out for dinner, I sneak in an extra one before I head out.

How do you deal with any negativity that comes your way?
I used to be a very angry person, I used to throw things and break them. Then I had five years of constant psycho-analysis, and I don’t get angry any more. Saying that, on Twitter I swear at people all the time, but I find that if I say ‘You’re so sexist and racist’ – pretty much in response to anything – they soon go away.

When and where are you at your happiest?
When my children are asleep.

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Giles Coren is officially no longer angry, he explains
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What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
It was from my dad, and it was regarding homework. He said: Don’t write the first thing you think of, everyone will write that. Don’t write the second thing you think of, all the bright students will do that. Write the third thing you think of, and then you can be sure it will have come from only you. He was saying it about homework, but I’ve tried to apply it ever since.

What has been the hardest lesson you’ve had to learn?
Sometimes it’s not necessarily you who’s actually crazy. Sometimes it IS her. Not all the time, but sometimes.

What would you like to be able to tell your 13-year-old self?
One day you will, in fact, lose your virginity.

What are the three things at the top of your to-do list?
Live to see my grandchildren; repaint the front door; drive to the airport in good time.

What do you think happens when we die?
Our wives get everything.

When or where you have felt in the presence of something bigger than ourselves?
Lords Cricket Ground.

What is the quality you most value in your relationships?
A blow job at the Groucho Club… I’m KIDDING!... okay, good sex. 

What keeps you grounded?
My children. 

What was the most recent act of kindness you received?
I was dining at a restaurant, and they brought out a plate of fresh scallops as a little treat. They made me very ill later, but it was a lovely thought.

You can check out some of the UK’s most entertaining complaints with OpenTable and Giles Coren above

10 Tips For Happiness in 2017
Work (01 of10)
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"Work makes you happier. It provides routine, structure and self-worth. Make sure you are in a job you enjoy. If you are not, make finding one that you do a priority for this year."
Independence(02 of10)
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"Personal control in work makes you happier; there is better life satisfaction for those earning less but in control of their working practice than those who are richer but have less control."
Relationships and Friendships(03 of10)
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"Those with close relationships are happiest – try to see friends and family more in the New Year. Research shows the closer people live to their friends, the happier they are – make new friends close to where you live. Get to know your neighbours better, try joining sports groups or taking up a hobby close to your home."
Play to your strengths(04 of10)
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"Identifying your strengths and focus on developing these, either in work or a hobby. This will encourage you to become immersed in what you do and find life more gratifying."
Altruism(05 of10)
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"Altruism is proven to help focus beyond ourselves and enable us to be more connected with the world around us. In 2015, find local charities, sports clubs or community organisations where you can donate your time - you might even start new friendships with local people."
Focus on the positives(06 of10)
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"Improving happiness levels can depend on how we focus our attention – being attentive and focusing on one positive task helps us to enjoy the moment."
Positive Memory(07 of10)
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"Those who are happier remember bad events in a more positive light – it is possible to focus on particular aspects of a memory to notice the positives more than negatives."
Gratitude Diary(08 of10)
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"You can retrain your mind to focus on the good things that happen rather than the bad. Stop taking your blessings for granted by keeping a gratitude diary. Every day for 6 weeks jot down 5 things that happened that day for which you are grateful."
Meditate(09 of10)
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"Regular meditation can help with positive mental health."
Say ‘Thank You’(10 of10)
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"Expressing your gratitude for someone’s actions is the single most effective exercise in positive psychology. Saying thank you to even small acts and gestures will help improve gratitude levels."